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    Woodhull Sponsor Call!

    Woodhull SFS is hosted in VA this year, and goodness gracious does this girl wanna go! My name’s Wendy Phillips and I’m a PoC Sex Blogger. But I don’t stop my blogging only at sex blogging, I also blog about Mental Health Education, and problems in the PoC community. I was inspired to start my blog in early 2018, and I hope to have a long, educational, fun, and feel good journey with it! The good lord knows that I’m not rolling in dough though, so I’m asking for YOUR help! I am calling for sponsors to help me cover the expenses of the trip for Woodhull! These expenses include room and board, food, transportation, my ticket…

  • Blog,  Mental Health,  Not a Review,  The Wench Talks

    The Wench Talks: What I’ve Been Up To

    “So how have you been?” This is probably one of the most asked questions since I’ve come back to the community, and I’ve decided to just write a nice post about what I did, what I’ve been up to, and how I’m doing since y’all last saw me. Back in March of last year, it was decided that I really needed to step back from the community. A lot of things were going on in my personal life- not having medicine, being in and out of the psychiatric hospital, etc, and a lot of what was going on online was exacerbating just how shitty things were going. So I stepped…

  • Reviews

    The Wench Reviews: Womanizer Starlet

        There are a few things about the Womanizer Starlet that can be said. 1) Its name is totally terrible. 2) Its logo looks a bit like the Walgreens logo. 3) I’m unconditionally, and irrevocably, head over heels in love with it. When I was first offered toys to review from Betty’s Toy Box, I was excited. I was a new blogger, it was my first time working with a company to review a toy, and the world felt like my oyster or something. Picking out a toy was difficult until my eyes zeroed in on “Womanizer: Starlet” and at the time the blogosphere had been abuzz with hype…

  • Not a Review,  Sexual Health

    The Wench Talks: The Importance of Open Dialogue

    So I sat there on my bed, toy in vag, totally trying to fuck myself into oblivion– except there was one problem: I was fucking myself, but into frustration. The toy didn’t feel good, I wasn’t aroused, nothing was going right. What the fuck was wrong? I felt the excitement I had about getting my dildos in the mail start to dissipate. It wasn’t feeling good, and I didn’t know what I was doing wrong. My favorite porn was on, and the moans were nice and loud and (to my knowledge) real, and I was doing other things that turned me on. Finally, I gave up and threw my dildo back into…

  • Reviews

    The Wench Reviews: Seduce Me Rabbit Clit Teaser

    Do you know what I hate? Pepto-Bismol pink. Do you know what else I hate? This toy. Coincidentally, this toy is Pepto-Bismol pink and I think that was the universes first sign to run. But did I listen? No. No, I did not.  But my hate isn’t unfounded though. I don’t hate the toy exclusively because it’s pink. That would be ridiculous, and ridiculous I am not. (Most of the time.)  I hate the bullet vibrator that slides into the silicone bunny sleeve that vibrates in all the wrong places. I hate the little bunny ears that are supposed to “flicker” against my clit. I hate the batteries this toy takes (three whole cell button batteries). Honestly,…

  • Mental Health,  Not a Review

    Not always a safe high: Masturbation & My Mental Illness

    Did you know that an orgasm is the biggest non-drug blast of dopamine available? According to Gloria Brame, Ph.D., a brain scan of someone having an orgasm looks like a heroin addict’s- it’s a natural and safe high.     But that’s what I want to touch on today. That word. “Safe.” Because, in certain cases, masturbation isn’t always safe. I don’t mean you can get hairy palms, go blind, or lose your sex. I mean that a person can masturbate too much, to a point where it becomes unsafe for them and can rock them mentally. This is a problem I deal with personally — the negative impact frequent masturbation can have on one’s psyche. I…